When it comes to relationships, the benefits and "fruit" of every relationship that we have is determined by the soil of our lives. We all have a perspective and a paradigm in which we live that's determined by our beliefs, our experiences, and our decisions. All of these things make up the soil of our lives that relational seeds are then sown into. So many times we can look at the fruit or status of a relationship and be unhappy or frustrated by it and neglect to address the very thing that is determining those outcomes, our soil. Is your soil bitter from a past hurt? Is your soil fearful or judgemental? Is your soil hopeful and always assuming the best? Is your soil encouraging and full of faith? If we want our relational seeds to flourish then we have to take ownership and responsibility of our soil. God desires for our relationships to grow and flourish and He wants our soil to always be fruitful. 

Mark 4 : 3 - 9
“Listen! A farmer went out to plant some seed. As he scattered it across his field, some of the seed fell on a footpath, and the birds came and ate it. Other seed fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. The seed sprouted quickly because the soil was shallow. But the plant soon wilted under the hot sun, and since it didn’t have deep roots, it died. Other seed fell among thorns that grew up and choked out the tender plants so they produced no grain. Still other seeds fell on fertile soil, and they sprouted, grew, and produced a crop that was thirty, sixty, and even a hundred times as much as had been planted!” Then he said, “Anyone with ears to hear should listen and understand.”